Thursday, November 11, 2010

h is for hair and help

I have a dilemma.  I really want (need) to get my hair cut.  It's really long - too long - and it's time.  The thing is, I've been contemplating a new do.  I'm thinking of going shorter, like shoulder length.  Right now, it's past my waist.

I like my long hair but for all the wrong reasons.  I hide behind it because it's distracting.  It's one of the first things people notice about me, which takes the pressure off other things.  Not sure when I developed that outlook, but here we are. 

{I don't have a recent picture of how long it is now.  It's well past my waist now. 
But as you can see, even when it's styled, it's still fuzzy.}

I was blessed with my mother's thick, dark mane.  The color and texture seem to suit my face - as though mother nature intended it to be that way or something.  But it's neither curly nor straight.  I tend to describe it as "bumpy."  It's almost constantly frizzy and if you so much as mention moisture in a conversation it's all over, making it difficult to maintain any style. I often wear it in an updo to keep from having to deal with it.
{My mom's hair is much straighter and darker than mine.}

The longer it gets the heavier it gets (and it's quite heavy), which means the flatter it gets.  It just sort of hangs there.  I chopped it off to my shoulders several years ago and loved it.  It styled much better, was much more curly (in a good way) and it didn't take as long to dry.  I did miss the length but the new style was fun for a while.  The second time I did it I thought I'd feel the same.  I cried for weeks.

I feel as though I should take the plunge and cut it off again.  I'm just not sure.  I'm scared I'll miss it.  That it will look terrible.  Plus, I don't want to hear the 1,358 people who are going to gasp and say, "WHY DID YOU CUT IT ALL OFF??"  Because they will come.  They always do.

{Always pulled back. Pitiful.}

So my question is - should I risk it, laugh in the face of my fears, inhibitions and insecurities or should I keep my long hair that I'm familiar with and very much love?  And another thing - fringe (bangs) or no fringe?

{No fringe} 

{No fringe} 

{Fringe.  And some 80's sunglasses. 
Also, the picture of me above in the green striped top has fringe.}


Jenny Matlock


CollectIn Texas Gal said...

Use less shampoo.
Only ONE Towel needed.
Dries quicker.
Rolls at Arms length or less.
It will grown back!

Been there done that! You can see length on my blog!

myorii said...

I say go for it! And add some fringe if it doesn't bother you too much :)

I use to have hair that long too and have grown it out once after getting it all chopped off in high school. It's such a liberating feeling to get all that hair off, don't you think? Plus, maybe you can find one of those charities where you can donate your hair so that they can make a wig out of it for chemo patients. I've had friends in the US do that and they say it's an incredible feeling.

Coralie Cederna Johnson said...

HOW about cutting just a little at a time so you can see which length you like best! Such beautiful HAIR!

Jen said...

Go for it fringe at first...then add some fringe if you like it.
I have been noticing some really cute short cuts lately too. You have a great face and smile for short hair, I think! Especially since you wear it up a lot anyway! Good luck...and next can post. "I" did it! for the letter "I"!

Los said...

Don't go too short ... I don't like short hair ... Shoulder length is doable, I guess.

Ms. Bake-it said...

Hello Paige,

Your hair is gorgeous but you have to do what you feel comfortable with. My suggestion is that if and when you cut it, you donate it to one of the organizations that take hair and turn it into wigs for terminally ill children and adults. My DIL and I just did that and it was her first time. I have a post drafted but I need after pics. I have before and during... Here are a few places to look into:

Wigs for Kids -

Pantene Beautiful Lengths -

Locks of Love -

I have had long hair all my life but about 15 years ago I began growing it and donating it. I usually can make a donation every 2 1/2 - 3 years. The shortest I ever had to cut it to make a donation was chin length but typically it is long enough for me to have it at shoulder length. It always takes me about 1 - 2 weeks to adjust the the new length!

I hope this helps. I look forward to hearing what you decide to do.

~ Tracy

JDaniel4's Mom said...

I love my hair being long. This would be a hard call for me.

Angelia Sims Hardy said...

If you are aching for a change, you should do it. Or maybe go somewhere in the middle and just cut half, that way it's not so dramatic?

I always say hair grows back, but it's easier said than done.

Your mom's hair is gorgeous!!

Jackie said...

I love long hair . It may take a longer time to style but I say keep the bangs/fringe and just give your hair a trim every now and again to keep it looking healthy. You can always put some hair extentions in it when it's long too . I have some cool blue ones but I never use them because my hair isn't growing fast enough it seems . Don't cut it please and it doesn't look frizzy .

jen said...

I am so the one to ask about this. I was NOT blessed with beautiful thick flowing hair like yourself. I was cursed with thin, straight, fine hair that will basically only do one thing--it grows crazy fast. Crazy fast. So I've tried every style--long and straight, short (think Demi Moore in Ghost)--and everything in between.
IT GROWS BACK! Try it. I actually saw a clip of Emma Watson today and saw she's cut ALL of her hair off--pixie style. I wish I could try that. My hair's too straight.
But you? You could totally pull it off. "Bumpy" hair is perfect for that cut.
And remember, it GROWS BACK!
Be brave. If not for yourself, for me.

BEAR's Mom said...

I did Locks of Love about 10 years was worth it...
now I'm short all the way...but I'm older than you ~
Like the other gals said ~ it grows back!!!


Sue said...

My DIL had hair all the way down her back when she married my son. Then she cut it to her shoulders. Then she grew it down her back again. Then she cut it and donated it to Locks of Love.

She said it was easier to cut it when she was donating...


PS. Now it's all the way down her back again!

PPS. And by the way, she's had bangs and no bangs, both!!

your friends the keyes said...

oh paige..
I just had this problem. i have had down too the middle of my back hair since i was in junior high school. i am 30 now. So anyway i went thru nursing school and decided that my hair was always in the way and i should just chop it. I got brave and cut it short. Like a stacked in the back but longer to my chin in the front. it was cute. But now.. I'm growing it back out and kinda wish i didn't anyone can have short hair but to have beautiful long hair.. not everyone can. i say keep it but stop hiding behind it. i don't think it's frizzy. you like everyone else out here are probably your own worst critic.

Mrs.Mayhem said...

Paige, I've told you before that your hair is gorgeous.

I vote for long, with no fringe because it is so beautiful.

But cutting it off and donating it would be so very kind of you.

RNSANE said...

Your hair is gorgeous - and you should do what feels best to you. I am 66 now and still keep my hair long...just below my shoulders. It is very thick and naturally wavy though I get a perm from time to time. I like being able to wear it up, down but, most of the time, it's just pulled back.

Judie said...

Paige, I had very long hair when I was younger. I cut it in stages, and eventually it became very short. Now, I would never have it long again--too much trouble. You are a lovely girl! Remember that whatever you do, it always grows back!!

•••Mumsy••• said...

I've the same dilemma with hair too, right now. I don't like long hair in the winter since my hair tends to knot with outerwear on and off all the time.

You're beautiful with that long hair, but if you want a chance, go for it! It will grow back!

H said...

EEEEP! Panic!! I don't know!!! I'm sorry, but I'm going through exactly the same thought processes. I've always had short hair, but over the last three years have grown it 'long' (by which I mean about half way down my shoulder blades - That's the longest I've EVER had it by far!). But now it's driving me nuts and I think it makes me look old. I can't decide what to do either :(

Katherine @ Grass Stains said...

I'm all for the cut! I've always loved yours when it was shorter ... I'd leave it long enough to pull back in a ponytail, though, because being able to get it off your neck is a MUST. You're beautiful either way, though. ;)

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By the way, I can't imagine you are going to look awful with shorter hair. Good luck with the decision!

Stef said...

Why is it so hard for us to make decisions about our hair? I am the same way. I guess because it is what we see when we look at ourselves everyday.
I say go for it. You'll get over the shock and then it will grow back.
Oh, can't wait to see it!!

Su-sieee! Mac said...

You've got great cheekbones. Perfect for short hair. Shoulder length or even short short hair would look good on you. If you're gonna go for a different hairstyle, why not the bangs. It will grown quick enough if you don't like it. Yep, that's my 2 cents worth. :-)

Kim Humes said...

Ummm hair problem?! What?! I think your hair is gorgeous and I'm in fact quite jealous. But I realize it's all about perspective - I hate my hair too so I hear you. I think cutting it to your shoulders would be great - you'd still have length and be able to put it up but you would have more volume, movement and it would just "freshen" you hair up a bit. It's good to get trims once in a while just to get rid of the dead ends, keep your hair healthy. I used to have the fringe bang but I didnt like them on me - however, you have nice bone structure (my face is round like a bowl) so they might look nice on you! They can make a style look really polished, but added bonus is you can hide acne and such on your forehead! Or if you're lazy some morning you can pull the rest of your hair back and only wash/ style the bangs and you'll still look pretty good with time to spare!! Good luck!

Jenners said...

First of all, I'd KILL to have your hair. (And your face. And your body.)

I think you should cut it a bit ... past your waist is just too long I think.

I vote for fringe.

I want photos of whatever you decide to do.

RedTedArt said...

Oooh, I have the same problem.. so i am totally the wrong person to ask!!

Visiting via Alphabet Thursday


Jenny said...

Paige, I was thinking about Locks of Love when I was reading this and then I was thinking about wigs. Is your hair too thick to actually try on wigs over it? You could do several different styles and have someone take your picture and see what looks the best to you.

You look like you have a perfect, oval face with great cheekbones and features so I suspect you could do just about anything and have it look wonderful.

I would cut it to the minimum requirement for locks of love or one of the donations and then see what you think.

I totally wouldn't cut the length and fringe in one day, though. Might be too much.

You are a lovely woman, though, and I think no matter what you choose to do, it will not hide that.

I don't think I was much help, but I will say I enjoyed stopping here today for Alphabe-Thursday anyway!

Can't wait to hear what you do!



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